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Wednesday, May 02, 2007

Now I know how Job felt!!!!

Member' a certain lockin that I assisted with. Weeeeeeeeellllll okay then. I went out to dinner with some friends the other night. They took us out to say goodbye to my Capt. He is leaving to go to the States on a 3 1/2 month adventure courtesy of the Air Force. Anyway, they told us that there was a rumor going around that our middle daughter (sorry mom for the visual that is to come) got buck naked and had wild monkey sex on the pool table. Let me give you a minute to digest that......................................................Enough time?? No?? Okay, a minute more...........................................................................Un-huh. Can I just tell you that the rage and white hot anger I felt while getting that little bit of wonderful information, well let's just say it could've lit up a small country for years. What is a mother to do? I had just given a message to the kids in Children's church about gossip and forgiveness. See where I was going with the whole Job thing. I was being sifted my fellow Christians!! Sifted like a year old sack of wheat. So what could I do?? Let me show you what I wanted to do....


I wanted to open up a can of this and let loose. After a sleepless night of praying and thinking and walking around the house and being madder then a hornet and praying and thinking this is what I did.

I called up the moms of the two kids involved. Then I met with them face to face, one at a time. It went well. I also told my daughter. That went not so well. To say she was devastated is to be putting it mildly. I had "the boy" in question come over. I told him to look me in the eyes and know that what I was about to tell him came straight from the heart. I told him, " I am going to stop this rumor. There will be apologies all around. I know that this is not true. YOU WILL DEMOLISH ALL INVOLVED WITH THE FURY OF THE AGES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!". Then I sent them off to school. By the time they got home the story had gotten bigger. Now there was mention of another girl taking naked pictures of herself. My hubby and I decided to ask all the parents involved to meet us at church that night and bring the kids. We'd get to the bottom of this in no time. The meeting went well. I lost my temper once and my daughter had to calm me down. She is quite the young woman and handled this with grace. The story started, from what we gather, by a 4th grade boy. There were many tears and many heartfelt apologies. We had to handle it like Christians. We let the kids know that we still loved them and cared about them. I had to let them know that I forgave them even though it was hurtful. They learned a lesson on how a small bit of gossip can spread like a plague and how it can hurt not only the person involved but the people around them. I learned that my hubby is incredibly sexy when he is in charge of a meeting...heeheehee a little humor there :)
So this crisis is over. Pray for me people!! I am trying to get these three kiddos to adult-hood here!! My kids are learning many lessons here about how to treat others. Sigh. I am hoping in the end it turns out to be a good thing. In the meantime, can anyone out there send me some chocolate?? HELLO OUT THERE...ANYONE??? SOS....SEND CHOCOLATY THINGS NOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
dawn

7 comments:

AVIDINHA said...

dawn your amazing. i probably wouldn't have handled that as well. take care.

Camp Walker Leigh said...

Dawn - OMG! And you all looked very composed this evening when I saw you. You are an amazing lady. I probably would have pulled the tab on the can of Whoop Ass then asked questions! I am hearing the "shake" of a shaker on Friday night! AND....I am stocked up and able to fill the shaker! I'm sure we could find some chocolate too.

Tiki said...

Dawn,

You are a strong woman and have raised your children the right way. You know it didn't happen and you got down to business! Yea for you!! Please come on Friday. I'll make brownies!!

Rebekah said...

I love it that you stood up for Middle Daughter without question, and that you KNOW her, all of your kids, and that you are so strong for them! You faced it head on, and let them know to stand up for themselves and to do it in the right way! Can I come for the shaker and chocolate too?

Anonymous said...

I can't believe how you handled your situation. I am a mom with 3 young children, 2 daughters and a son. I will use your experience to help me with my partneting in the future. Thanks a million for sharing, you never know how your experiences influence others.

Tiki said...

Rebekah,

If you can get to Camp Walker, South Korea by Friday..then you are MORE THAN WELCOME to come for a shaker and chocolate!!

Tracey @ozcountryquiltingmum said...

Oh, you poor poor thing! That's huge and you just handled it so well. Your kids should be proud, and how are you going to go without hubby-he's leaving you in Korea??? Is there no where for you to go with him? Thinking of you, Tracey