BLOGGER TEMPLATES AND TWITTER BACKGROUNDS

Friday, January 11, 2008

My Two Lives Come Face To Face.....

I got an email this week that has caused me to look at my blog and go "hmmmmmmmm".
This email is from an old friend of mine. We've been friends for around 13 years and used to go to the same church together. We even sang in the choir standing right next to each other. Our families have traveled many miles to stay with each other when we moved away to other States. It goes without saying that I love her as a sister. Now I find out that her computer died about a year ago and she wants to catch up on my blog.

Ummmmmmm no.

How do I explain this???? This blog is where I have put time in examining my "Real" self. My fears for my children....my anger at someone.....a drink or three out with the girls.....mooning over my hubby.......my struggle with church.....funny things...sad things. I am even working on a post talking about my 10 year struggle with depression. I think if she read my blog she might think that I have headed down the path of ill-repute. That I have fallen by the way-side.
I can hear you out there now saying that if we have really been friends for all these years then she should know the real me anyway. But let me ask you this.......have your two lives ever come face to face?? Has anyone ever read your blog, someone that knows you in real life, and said to you, "I didn't know you felt that way" or "I never knew that about you" and then looked at you with dis-approval?? How did you handle that?? What if it's a friendship you treasure?? Or have you ever hurt someone's feelings without meaning to. You put something in the blog not knowing they would read it and then they found it and took it out of context and got upset.

Just some things I'm thinking about. I'm not going to change anything about myself. I like the person I am and love having this blog to express myself. It's just when I got that email two days ago it gave me pause and I was also a little surprised at myself that my first thought was "oh heck no you aren't getting my blog address!!!!!!" Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmm What do you think??
dawn

10 comments:

Pam said...

Actually, I am facing this very thing right now! I know for certain 3 people who are reading my site who have never mentioned it to me, face to face...it hasn't changed me, but it does make me stop and think before I type.

Pam@
www.pamgwillim.com

Rebekah said...

I'm thinking I love all of your personalities! ALL OF EM... but, I also know that some people, even in love, can judge us, and that hurts, especially when it can stifle us and our need to express ourselves. Do what allows you to continue expressing all of you...

Lil said...

The difference between you and others is that you are saying the excact things THEY are thinking... and you do it in a hilariously funny way. They just don't want to put it out there. Nah... don't stop being you. It is what makes you and your blog incredibly real and funny. Besides, I think there is freedom in not caring what others think. I think everyone struggles on a daily basis on how others percieve them and as we get older and grow we just dont care. Or at least I would like to think so! tee hee! Keep being YOU!

Anonymous said...

You are my SUNSHINE! You are my LAUGHTER! You are my PRECIOUS! You are my INSPIRATION! You are my DEAREST! You are my STRENGTH! You are my HEART! You are the person I always wanted to be!!!

Don't you ever change!!!

LOVE (PROUD TO BE CALLED) YOUR MOM
Grandma - A-Go-Go

Pam said...

OK...Dawn...after sending my wordy email to you I came back and look what I found!!

Your mom says it best...she said it all...and if Mom says it then so be it...

nuf said!!!

Pam@
www.pamgwillim.com

The Jen said...

I'm a "take it or leave it" friend. So hopefully the people who have read my blog, who I know in real life, don't have a problem with it. Good luck! ~jen~

Tracey @ozcountryquiltingmum said...

I struggle with this as well....I now have a few people i know and it slightly changes how you write...the anonymity goes.
And it constantly blows me away when they say, i saw it on your blog...i feel like they should wait until i tell them stuff-but I did tell them!!!
But then, when you are out and they say, "I am addicted to your blog"-it really blows you away!
Hope the cramps disappear...and I nominated you for my "maye my Day" award...Tracey

Tracey @ozcountryquiltingmum said...

That was "make" Tracey

Patti said...

I think that would be very hard. It made me think, because many people I know personally - including both my daughter and my daughter-in-law - know my blog address and read my blog. At least part of the time. On the other hand I put myself out in the blog the way you do. It's not that I'm afraid to - it's just that after years of struggling with my life I'm happy with who I am and where I am. I, too, have suffered from depression off and on, and am taking medication for it now. I suffered from a severe inferiority complex for most of my life. I think if I were still feeling these things I would express the on my blog, as I tend to wear my heart on my sleeve and have no secrets. I'm not sure how I'd feel if my family and friends read the stuff I would have written 10-20 years ago.

Bottom line is this - if you are uncomfortable with it then don't give her the address. I have an online friend who stopped blogging for over a year because someone she knew used what she said on her blog to spread vicious talk and rumors. Of course this gal wasn't a friend - but why take the chance?

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